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PAULIE SAYS

FROM HERE TO THERE

It’s been very hard for me to approach this subject because while it has been an important part of my life, it’s been painful at times. Long distance relationships. I became an internet user at the tender age of 12 or so. Maybe even earlier than that. From there, I met so many people and some of those friendships went beyond screens and borders. And those close to me somehow always moved elsewhere. Even I did for a while.

70cb02d6dbd011e2813a22000a1fb833_7Now, this post was intended to shine a light on how my cards have been dealt and how coincidentally, I’ve had to deal with all kinds of long distance relationships for as long as I’ve known it was possible. Most of my friends I met online while living in separate parts of the world, others I met in person and life made us part ways, I had a previous LDR before meeting Ed (to whom I almost didn’t give a chance given the circumstances), two of my siblings live overseas ever since i was a kid…

People came and went. Met people who lead me to meet more people and build relationships. There was this girl who i befriended, who introduced me to someone else who turned out to be a good riddance, but who would eventually lead me to my friend Annie… We remained friends, traveled together and through her I met more people that I now consider family.

This person, a former friend, who used to criticize me behind my back saying I was someone who was unable to form “real” relationships. What’s real if the lines have been blurred for decades now?  It crushed me because I knew it wasn’t an impossible task, but it was partially right. I have a mild form of Social Anxiety and it’s hard for me to open up to new people quite as easily as most folks – but was this correlated to the fact I ALWAYS ended up separated from the ones I loved? Who knows. It is what it is.

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Us – watching a movie together while apart.

Growing up I figured I’ve worked hard to make long distance relationships work, with friends, family, my boyfriend…Luckily I no longer have to with the latter, but these things have been rewarding. Sometimes I do wish some of them would text me more often, but I get everyone gets caught up with their lives at some point.

I am happy to have survived the distance with him. The planets lined up and sacrifices were made. I feel i finally ~broke the curse~ and came out with funny stories to tell. I want to say LDRs are 50% about location, 50% about perception. I never felt Ed was 16 hours away from me and that kept me going.

My life as a meme. I didn’t choose the LDR life, the LDR life chose me.

 

NERD SPOT, PAULIE SAYS

A GAMER’S GIRL

My parents never bought me video games, mostly because I never asked for them. I remember getting board games I never used and focused myself into arts and crafts and my ever-growing Polly Pocket collection.  I played on occasion, with my neighbor and her Game Cube, I discovered Smash Bros. and the one game dear to my heart no matter the console: Mario Kart. Later in life I bought a Wii, it was my first -mine all mine- console, and later came a pink DS Lite with some girly, effortless titles. Of course as it’s expected of me, I blinged it with cheap crystal stickers and am proud to say I still have it. I remember my brother was into Atari when he was younger and later played PC games and Xbox. I found my niche to be Nintendo.

When I met Ed he rekindled that dormant love for video games. I also met a new array of games I ignored before, Magic The Gathering is among those. And Zelda,  the true love of his life. I had played it before but never thought it would become such a big part of our life together. Never had I thought I would go in so deep into gaming. He presented me with a set of MTG cards on our very first date and I made it my task to learn how to play it while he was away (we dated long distance for months) so I went to a gaming shop on a weekly basis to learn how to play… and also made new friends along the way. It was hard, but sharing something like this with your partner is much more fun in the long run.

Given that I accepted the deal, you know, dating him, I also committed myself to participate in things he enjoyed. I support his gaming nights where instead of hanging out with me he goes and plays against other experienced/veteran players, I’ve even hung out entire days doing nothing at a shop while he plays in tournaments because I know I can offer some support between rounds. I’m often known as the girlfriend who brings him food(a.k.a. nerd fuel). It’s funny how I was a regular and now I just come around in a supporting role. On weekends we gather with friends and do role-playing, which I still find a bit confusing and overwhelming but I’m sticking to it, it is fun after all!

He supports what I do too, and my own gaming habits. I’m a HUGE Animal Crossing fan (and I’m gonna make a separate post about that later on), and while I don’t have as much available time to play as I did before, he has been the one buying me amiibos, going to meet ups to trade cards with me and making sure my collection is up to date… Still need to fully display them all but that’s happening rather soon… We also have a soft spot for board games, including those like Monopoly that I once received as a Christmas present from relatives but had no one to play them with.

I’m not the indicated to give relationship advice, but being open to new experiences and sharing the love for games has made our relationship much stronger than it was. It’s teamwork, I suppose. He will always be Player 1 for me, though I’m sure he would rather be my Player 2.

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